NAMNA YA KUMFURAHISHA MPENZI WAKO

 NAMNA YA KUMFURAHISHA MPENZI WAKO



Na SIXBERTY MANSON

Kumpenda mtu ni rahisi lakini kwa kuishi huo upendo, yaweza kuwa ngumu kidogo. Ian Isherwood anasema kuwa kurudiarudia huu mshororo wenye maneno matatu tu, "I Love You" Mara kwa mara haitoshi kuweka mapenzi ya uhusiano wenu kunoga zaidi milele. Kuna Sentensi sita muhimu sana ukimwambia mpenzio mara kwa mara napenzi yenu yafikia upeo.

Kila mtu ana njia yake ya kumwonyesha mpenzi wake kuwa anampenda na kumjali. Haijalishi ni maneno yepi hutumia. La maana ni kwamba uhusiano wake na mpenziwe unadumu kwa raha tele.

Ukitumia maneno mazuri kwa mpenzi wako unampa furaha na kumwonyesha kuwa yeye ndiye mtu wa kipekee kwako duniani. Kama unaye mpenzi, anza kutumia , maneno haya sita na uhusiano wako utakuwa wenye raha; 

1. Nimebahatika kuwa nawe 

Kumwelezea mpenzio vile unajisikia kubahatika kuwa naye katika maisha yako ina uzito zaidi kuliko " Love You".

Wakati unampenda mtu sana unajiona duni kwamba hata kuona amekufanyia fadhila ({Favour) kuwa nawe. Yaani ni kama huna cha kumrudishia kama shukrani kwa upendo wake kwako. Ukisema haya wamfanya kujiskia amependwa na kwamba unafurahia anayokufanyia. 


2. Pole/ Samahani 

Kusema Pole baada ya kukoseana au majibizano madogo huongeza mapenzi katika ndoa yenu. Kusema "pole" haitamaanishe eti wewe ni hafifu sana kumliko mwenzio. Kila ndoa huwa na majibizano, wivu na kutoelewana. Lakini baada ya hayo yote, sema "pole" na kwa ukweli yatapoa! 

3. Nimekusamehe 

Ni vigumu kwa mtu kuomba msamaha lakini ni vigumu zaidi kusamehe mtu. Msamaha ni jambo muhimu sana katika uhusiano. 

Ni ngumu sana kuifanya mara kwa mara lakini ndiyo huongoza na kupeana mwelekeo wa ndoa. Haina haja kushikilia mabaya ili kuharibu ndoa yako. Msamehe tu!

 4. Nipo hapa kwa ajili yako 


Ukimpenda mtu, mkubali kwa jiinsi alivyo kwa uzuri au ubaya. Hakuna aliyekamilika. Wakati mwenzako anapitia magumu, hakuna maneno yanayompa nguvu kuliko " Nipo hapa kwa ajili yako" kutoka kwa ampendaye. Maneno haya humhakikishia mwenzio kuwa una yeye katika hali zote za kimaisha. 

5. Nakuamini 

Bila kuaminiana ndoa haiwezi dumu. Ndoa hupata majaribu hata ikiwa ya miaka hamsini! Lakini la muhimu sana ili kudumisha mapenzi katika ndoa ni uaminifu. Habari Nyingine: Inashangaza: Mume amuuza mkewe kwa mtalii! Ukimwambia mwenzako unamuamini, basi umeondoa hisia za mbaya kumhusu kama wivu ambao ni hatari sana kwa ndoa. 

6. Nijitolea kwako kikamilifu 


Kujitolea kwa hakika kwa mpenzio huonyesha kuwa ulimchagua yeye pekee, kawa mwaminifu na kampeda kwa dhati. Kila mtu hutaka kuhakikishiwa kuwa ni yeye tu katika uhusiano. Usione ni kawaida kuwa na mpenzio. 



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Some people use these words with malicious intent. If you persuade a participant to either benefit yourself financially. Don't be deceived! see also their actions if they are in line with their words. 

The great romantic words to the woman

The great romantic words to the woman
                                By 
                    Sixberty manson 

In a romantic relationship there are two very important words that carry a heavy romantic message for a dearly loved partner, that is, 'I love you' and 'I will marry you'.

These two words to those who know their value are not easy to pronounce at any one who has no plan to love or marry him.

To pronounce these words with the need to seduce a partner or partner in a romantic relationship is a hoax and is a great sin.

Surprisingly, we have often witnessed or seen many lovers narrating or describing how he could be hurt and disappointed by someone who thought he could really love her from his heart and marry her.

You will see him telling how he could first meet with the same person either through his contact with him, through social networks or through telecommunications.

That was the reason why she was confused, confused, giving her and getting into the trap with the sweet words she had heard in her ears. Poor! it is a falsehood, on his side he is asking himself if he is really loved.

Of course the one who wants his answer is very simple, I love you. There are also those who introduce the word without even being asked.

It is all in an attempt to draw the heart of the one who wishes to love her so that she can trust her to be loved but also to be sure of the possibility of getting married.

It is in such a situation, many have been deceived and abandoned. But if they would know that, the question of love, marriage or marriage has a special value in the lives of sincere people would not say those words to the unloved.

Thus, for the one who knows the meaning and importance of those words is not easy to agree with such a partner.

But also for a seductive and unwilling person to say these words, you will see if they are looking for a way or another way to catch the trap.

The kind of words he will use if he is not careful in knowing the truth or his lies, can take you psychologically and also lead you to really believe those words.

For example, a partner can tell you that, "don't worry about it, it's best to first know each other, so you can decide if you really like it or not.

“Then about me and you marry it is a step-by-step result. For another thing it is not something to break. I don't want you to see if I deceive you, I want you to believe that I am honest and even when I say you love you to see the truth come from my heart "

Such a kind of talk is to lose a partner or a caterpillar with a view to having sex.

When the partner is desperate to believe these words quickly without taking the time to evaluate and work these words, it is easy to get a headache to be lost to the heart and later hurt his heart.

Also remember that, when he is slandered by such words, by means of contact with him, through social networks or by phone that, 'I love you' and also need to add a commitment to marry him when he knows with him, it is betraying a partner, boyfriend, wife or husband.

In addition, the use of the words 'I love you and I will marry you' regardless of the value of those words is to hurt the partner or the heart.

It also causes him to become a psychologist, to find a way of suicide simply because he fails to believe what happened after hearing that the words you have spoken are in need of romantic love.

In other words, the use of these words can cause you to miss the value of love between you and the one you really love.

Sometimes the use of these words can lead to the one who has the intention to seduce her, either with good intentions to find you romanticly after you have been hostile to you or to hurt you with an evil intention to hurt you with your heart.

Sometimes before saying these words, it is good for a partner to ask himself twice about what he wants to do to the one who has a purpose of deceiving him.

Ask yourself, is it right to tell someone else than you have chosen in your heart, to love him deeply and perhaps even embrace him and marry him that you love him and will marry someone else different from him?

If you are a lover and have a boyfriend, husband or wife try to change your behavior by keeping the dignity of your spouse's love, if he has respect and care for your love, be in the fear of God within you.

But also be honest with the words you speak. Do nothing or say sweet words for the need to please him or her to find someone you want in romance.

Do not use the words I love for you, and do not promise that you will marry her, it is not desirable.

MAHABA YA MWALIMU WRITTEN BY SIXBERTY MANSON STORY YA KUSISIMUA YA MAPENZI

MAHABA

YA

MWALIMU

Written by Sixberty Manson

Nilitamani muda wa vipindi darasani umalizike ili iweze kutimiza ahadi niliyokuwa naisubiri kwa siku nyingi. Mwalimu alikuwa akifundisha lakini ni kama nilikuwa sielewi wala sisikii alichokuwa anaelezea. Mawazo yangu yote yalikuwa kwa Madam Jesca.

Nilitamani muda wa vipindi darasani umalizike ili iweze kutimiza ahadi niliyokuwa naisubiri kwa siku nyingi. Mwalimu alikuwa akifundisha lakini ni kama nilikuwa sielewi wala sisikii alichokuwa anaelezea. Mawazo yangu yote yalikuwa kwa Madam Jesca. Siku hiyo nilijisemea kuwa iwe isiwe lazima nimweleze ukweli na ikibidi siku hiyo hiyo yatimie ninayoyawaza kila kukicha. Madam Jesca alikuwa ni mwalimu aliyekuwa akitufundisha kwa muda tu baada ya kuwa amemaliza kidato cha sita.

Wakati huo sisi tulikuwa kidato cha nne. Somo alilokuwa akitufundisha ni Kiswahili. Hatimaye mwalimu akatoka na baada ya nusu saa nikaondoka kuelekea nyumbani kwa madam Jesca. Niliingia baada ya kuwa nimegonga hodi. “We Joshua mbona muda wa vipindi hivi we umekuja huku...” aliniuliza huku macho yake yakionyesha mshangao wa waziwazi. Kanga yake aliyovaa ilikuwa imelowana na hivyo kusababisha niuone mstari wa chupi. Na kama hiyo haitoshi madam Jesca alikuwa ana kitu kingine cha ziada. Awali nilidhani nimekifananisha lakini alipotembea nikahisi ni chenyewe. 

Aidha alikuwa amevaa cheni ama la alikuwa ana shanga kadhaa kiunoni. “Mwalimu nimekuja unifundishe aina za NOMINO” “Joshua ni lini sasa utaacha vituko, aina za Nomino nyumbani kwangu eeh!!” alinikaripia lakini sikurudi nyuma niliamua kuwa iwe siku hiyo. Siku ya maamuzi yangu!! “Madam, kwa hiyo unataka nifeli ama….” Nilimuuliza kwa uchungu. Nikauona uso wake ukipunguza makali ya hasira. “Hebu ni kitu gani huelewi sasa hapa kwenye Nomino…...” aliniuliza. Nikatikisa kichwa na kuingiza mtego wangu. Madam mwenyewe hakuwa mkubwa ni basi tu ye alikuwa amenitangulia kieleimu na sasa ni mwalimu wangu. 

“Madamu…nitafundishwa nikiwa nimesimama hivi kweli..” nilihoji huku nikitoa tabasamu hafifu sana. Madam akatembea na kuingia ndani huku akinionyesha ishara ya kumfuata. Nikafanya kama alivyoniambia, nikiwa nyuma yake nikauona utamu halisi wa Madam ambao huwa unajificha katika mavazi yake ya kiualimu. Alikuwa amegawanyika vizuri, kiuno kilijitenga kivyake na makalio yake yalikuwa katika mlingano sahihi hivyo hata kutikisika yalitikisika katika namna ya kuvutia. Upesi nikaingiza mkono katika suruali yangu ya shule nikaishusha injini iliyoanza kunyanyuka juu nikaibana vyema katika mkanda ili isije kuniaibisha mbeleni. 

Ubaya na uzuri wa chumba cha Madam Jesca ni kwamba kilikuwa kimoja tu, hivyo hakupata fursa ya kubadili nguo aliketi kitandani na kuniruhusu mimi nikae katika kiti. “Iwe mara ya kwanza na ya mwisho kuingia katika nyumba hii. Shida zote tunamalizia shuleni sawa???” alijaribu kunikoromea. Na hapo nikauona utamu mwingine. Jesca alikuwa na mwanya!! Mama weee!! Nilikuwa wapi siku zote bila kuuona huu mwanya. “Nimekuelewa mwalimu!” nilijibu kwa nidhamu.

“Haya ni wapi hukuelewa…’ “Madam usiseme tu sikuelewa yaani siku hiyo sikuwa darasani kabisa…” “Sasa utoro wako nd’o uje kunisumbua mimi ebo!!!” aling’aka. “Sio utoro madam…. nilikumbwa na majanga sana….” “Yapi uongo tu!!!” alizidi kuwaka…. katika namna ya kunisuta… Na hapo ndipo nilipopataka zaidi. “Madam nilipata misiba mfululizo we acha tu, kwanza mdogo wangu, sijakaa sawa kuna rafiki yangu wa tangu utoto naye akagongwa gari…mama ameugua muda mrefu pia madam, yaani aargh!! Mwaka huu ni wangu madam mi nitafeli tu na sijui nitakuwa mgeni wa nani, hesabu nimekosa topiki mbili, Chemistry nd’o sijagusa praktiko hata moja….” na hapo nikasita kisha nikaanza kulia, nililia kiume machozi bila kelele. Madam akajiingiza mkenge, akanishika na kuanza kunibembeleza. Huu si ndio utamu niliokuwa nautaka sasa…. Alinibembeleza mwisho nami nikajilaza kifuani mwake.

Wacha wee!! Madam alikuwa na embe dodo kifuani ambazo zilikuwa na joto fulani linalokulazimisha kuendelea kuzilalia hata kama hutaki kulala. Mikono yangu ikazunguka katika kiuno cha madam na kukutana na ile cheni, nikaifyokonoa na kuizamisha katika kiuno chake. Nikazisikia pumzi zake zikipishana kwa kasi, nikajua nimegusa penyewe. “Usijali joshu aaaaah!! Usijali utafaulu sawa eeeh!! Usijali jo….ooooooH!!! aaaaaaH!!!” he!! Madame alikuwa anazungumza ama analalamika.

Nikatambua kuwa mambo tayari, nikamsukuma ghafla akatua kitandani kwake. Macho yake 

yalijaribu kunitazama lakini yalionyesha kusinzia kwa huba!! Kanga ilikuwa imekaa hovyo tu, paja laini likinidhihaki na kichupi cheupe nacho kikinichungulia na kuniambia karibu!!! Sikutaka kuwa na papara, nikamrukia na kukutanisha ndimi zetu, akazipokea. Ebwa ee!! Joto likaongezeka na suruali ikazidio kunibana…. Ni kama alijua vile kuwa jogoo anataka joto, nikaisikia mikono yake ikitafuta mkanda wangu huku ndimi zikiendelea kushambuliana kwa kasi. Akaupta mkanda, akaufungua nami nikajipandisha juu kidogo ili aweze kuitoa suruali vyema.

Akaishusha kidogo kwa mikono kisha akaisindikiza kwa miguu. Mara mapaja yakagusana….doh!! nikajihisi nipo ulaya na wazungu wanataka kutoka katika jogoo wangu. Aibu gani hii wazungu kutoka katika nchi kabla ya uhuru!!! Nikajibana huku na kule huku nikijaribu kukwepesha hisia zangu nisije kuaibika. Ghafla mkono wa Jesca ukaikamata ikulu vyema, mikono laini kabisa ikaanza kupanda juu na kushuka chini kwa sababu maalumu kabisa.

Lakini kama nilidhani kuwa ile mikono ndo laini kupita kila kitu nilikuwa nimekosea. Ni kama tulikuwa tunacheza kuwahiana, mimi nilikuwa nimemnyonya masikio, mara akanirukia na kujikunja huku akihema, akaimeza ikulu nzimanziama mama weee!! Nikajikuta napiga kelele kwa mshtuko.

Jesca akanishambulia kwa kasi sana hadi nikakiri kuwa nisipokuwa makini wazungu watatoka kabla sijapewa uhuru. Nikambandua kutoka pale kisha ikawa zamu yangu kutazama chumvi ya uvinza ina kiwango ama imeharibika tayari. Nikazamisha ulimi na kuanza kufanya upelelezi. Nilipopiga kelele nilidhani nimejiaibisha lakini madam alikuwa zaidi. Sijui kilikuwa kichaga kile. Neno kuu alilorudia mara kwa mara ni ‘yerewiiii na jingine mbombo ngafu…’ kama sikosei ni hayo. Nadhani mchaga yule. Chumvi yake ilikuwa ina ubora, madam alikuwa msafi kupindukia. 

Hakuwa akitoa harufu kabisa!! Maana akina Mwajuma wa mtaani kwetu almanusura nitapike nilipozama siku ile!! Huyu alikuwa smart haswa!! Kama ni utamu ndipo huu. Masikioni utamu, mdomoni utamu, hadi huku kwenye chumvi napo utamu. Ulikuwa utamu mtupu!!! Madam kuona mashambulizi yamezidi na yeye akajaribu kupambana…safari hii kidogo aniue huyu dada. Ebwana!! 

Umewahi kupulizwa korodani wewe!! Zipulizwe halafu zimezwe kitaalamu……. Unaweza kuzirai!!! Na usiombe upate mtaalamu wa kuzipuliza na kunyonya unaweza kujifia kitandani ukapatia watu kesi zisizowahusu. Madam akaninyonya, sijui na mimi nilizungumza kipare?? Sikumbuki kwa kweli….. Baada ya hapo hapakuwa na jingine ulikuwa wakati wa kuwarudisha wazungu ulaya ili nibaki huru!! Kibaba na mama!!! Staili ya kuwarudisha wazungu wa kwanza wenye kiherehere!!! Nikajikunja na kuushika mguu wake nikaunyanyua juu..nikaingia golini.

Haya nafungaje sasa….. Huyu nakuna kushoto sana ambapo wasichana wengi wamezoea kwa sababu mashine nyingi za wanaume huwa zimeegemea kushoto…..nikishamkuna kushoto alipozoea nahamia kulia ambapo najua hajawahi kukunwa vizuri. Kweli nikaanzia kushoto, nikakwangua kama mara ishirini, nilipohamia kulia. Madame akapiga kelele za utamu kwa nguvu. Nikatamani kumziba mdomo lakini nikajua huo ni utamu umempagawisha!!! Na mimi lazima niwatoe wazungu ndo nitajua hayo mengine. Nikamkunja zaidi huku nikizidi kukuna kulia……..nikawakontrol wazungu wasitoke ili aendelee kufaidi. “Baby iam coming…..iam coming baby…..” nikamsikia akilalamika kimombo, haya huwa nayasoma gazetini huko nikajua kuwa amekaribia mshindo.

“Jamani ankoo!!” nikamsikia akizidi kulalamika Nikazidi kupampu kwa juhudi ili asinisahau tena maishani mwake. Ile wazungu wanataka kuja na yeye akajipandisha juu zaidi. Akanisukuma kwa nguvu. He!! Mara nikajikuta hewani, nikataka kurudi chini ikawa ngumu. Mara macho yakafumbuka, nilikuwa nimeanguka na kiti changu darasani, wanafunzi walikuwa wanapiga kelele. Wengine wakinizomea, wengine wakinisikitikia,,,,,, ile kujitazama suruali yangu ilikuwa imevimba haswa na wasichana walikuwa wakinitazama. “Joshua yaani unaota mchana kweupe hivi mdogo wangu?? Tena unakoroma kama kondoo looh!!” lilikuwa swali kutoka kwa madam Jesca. Ebwana eeeh!! Ilikuwa aibu, kichwa kikaanza kuuma nikatambua kuwa nilijibamiza vibaya nilipoanguka. 

Na mwalimu niliyemuota nd’o kilikuwa kipindi chake sasa!! KISWAHILI Looh!! Yaani utamu wote ule kumbe nilikuwa naota Joshua mimi aaargh!!! Japokuwa ilikuwa ndoto lakini ule ulikuwa UTAMU MTUPU…. 

Sema ilikuwa noma sana maana nilitaniwa sana hadi shule nzima ikajua kuwa niliota nafanya mapenzi nikashtuka nishajimwagia tayari!!! ****************************** 

MWISHO!

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Kwa Nini Upendo Hupungua?

“Inaonekana kuwa rahisi sana kumpenda mtu kuliko kudumisha upendo huo.”—  SIXBERTY MANSON 

ONGEZEKO kubwa la ndoa zisizo na upendo yamkini si jambo la kushangaza. Ndoa ni uhusiano tata wa kibinadamu, na wengi huingia katika uhusiano huo bila kujiandaa vya kutosha. “Inatubidi kuwa na uzoefu kiasi fulani kabla ya kupokea leseni ya kuendesha gari,” asema Dakt. Dean S. Edell, “lakini cheti cha ndoa chahitaji tu sahihi.”

Kwa sababu hiyo, ingawa ndoa nyingi hunawiri na kuwa na furaha tele, ndoa kadhaa hunyong’onyea katika matatizo. Huenda mwenzi mmoja au wote wawili waliingia katika ndoa wakiwa na matumaini makubwa lakini hawana ujuzi unaohitajika ili kudumisha ndoa. “Watu wanapopendana mara ya kwanza,” aeleza Dakt. Harry Reis, “kila mmoja huwa na uhakika mno na mwenziwe.” Wao huhisi kana kwamba mwenzi wao ndiye “mtu pekee duniani mwenye maoni sawa na yao. Nyakati nyingine hisia hiyo hufifia na inapokuwa hivyo, ndoa huathiriwa sana.”

Jambo la kupendeza ni kwamba ndoa nyingi hazifikii hatua hiyo. Lakini acheni tuchanganue kwa ufupi sababu kadhaa zinazosababisha upendo kufifia katika baadhi ya ndoa.

Kutamaushwa—“Sikutarajia Hali Hii”

“Nilipoolewa na Jim,” asema Rose, “nilitarajia tungekuwa na mapenzi kama ya malkia na mfalme mwenye kuvutia katika hadithi moja—mahaba kemkemu, wororo tele na kutendeana kwa fadhili.” Lakini, baada ya kitambo kidogo, “mfalme” wa Rose akawa havutii tena. “Hatimaye alinitamausha sana,” yeye asema.

Sinema, vitabu, na nyimbo zinazopendwa na wengi hutoa maoni yasiyo halisi kuhusu upendo. Wanapokuwa wakichumbiana, huenda mwanamume na mwanamke wakahisi kwamba mataraja yao yametimia; lakini baada ya miaka fulani katika maisha ya ndoa, wanakata kauli kwamba hiyo ilikuwa ni ndoto tu! Maisha ya ndoa yasiposhabihi yale yanayosimuliwa katika riwaya za mahaba, wengi huona ndoa yao haiwezi kufaulu kabisa.

Pasipo shaka, matazamio fulani katika ndoa yanafaa kabisa. Kwa mfano, inafaa kutazamia upendo, ufikirio na utegemezo kutoka kwa mwenzi wa ndoa. Na bado, huenda hata matazamio hayo yasitimizwe. “Nahisi kana kwamba sijaolewa,” asema Meena, msichana mchanga aliyeolewa karibuni huko India. “Najihisi nikiwa mpweke na hakuna anayenijali.”

Kutopatana—“Hatupatani kwa Vyovyote”

“Hatupatani kwa vyovyote na mume wangu,” asema mwanamke mmoja. “Najuta kila siku kwamba niliolewa naye. Hatufaani kabisa.”

Kwa kawaida haichukui muda mrefu kwa wenzi wa ndoa kung’amua kwamba hawafaani kama walivyodhani wakati wa uchumba. “Maisha ya ndoa hufunua tabia zilizofichika wenzi hao walipokuwa waseja,” aandika Dakt. Nina S. Fields.

Kwa sababu hiyo, baada ya kufunga ndoa wenzi fulani wanaweza kukata kauli kwamba hawapatani kabisa. “Licha ya upatano fulani katika mapendezi na utu, watu wengi huingia katika maisha ya ndoa wakiwa na tofauti kubwa sana katika mtindo, tabia, na mielekeo,” asema Dakt. Aaron T. Beck. Wenzi wengi wa ndoa hawajui namna ya kutatua tofauti hizo.

Ugomvi—“Sisi Hugombana Daima”

“Tulishangazwa na ugomvi wetu wa kila mara—kurushiana maneno, na jambo baya zaidi, kunyamaziana kwa siku nyingi,” asema Cindy, akikumbuka siku za mapema za ndoa yao.

Kutokuelewana ni jambo la kawaida katika ndoa. Lakini hali hiyo ishughulikiweje? “Katika maisha mazuri ya ndoa,” aandika Dakt. Daniel Goleman, “mume na mke wako huru kulalamika. Lakini mara nyingi kwa sababu ya hasira, malalamiko hutolewa kwa njia yenye kuumiza na yenye kushambulia tabia ya yule mwenzi mwingine.”

Hali hiyo inapotukia, mazungumzo hugeuka kuwa mashindano, kila mmoja akishikilia maoni yake kwa ushupavu na hivyo hushambuliana kwa maneno badala ya kuwasiliana. Kikundi kimoja cha wataalamu chasema hivi: “Mojawapo ya matokeo mabaya zaidi ya ubishi usiodhibitiwa ni kwamba wenzi husema mambo yanayotisha usalama wa ndoa yao wenyewe.”

Ubaridi— “Tumeshindwa”

“Nimeshindwa kufanya ndoa yetu ifaulu,” akakiri mwanamke mmoja baada ya miaka mitano katika maisha ya ndoa. “Najua kwamba haitafaulu. Sasa nahangaikia watoto tu.”

Imesemwa kwamba kinyume kabisa cha upendo si chuki bali ni ubaridi. Kwa hakika, ubaridi waweza kuharibu kabisa ndoa sawa na uhasama.

Lakini jambo la kusikitisha ni kwamba, wenzi wengi wa ndoa wamevumilia ndoa isiyo na upendo kwa muda mrefu hivi kwamba hawana tumaini kabisa kwamba hali itabadilika. Kwa mfano, mume mmoja alisema kwamba maisha yake ya ndoa ya miaka 23 yalingana na “kufanya kazi isiyopendeza.” Aliongezea kusema: “Wajitahidi kufanya yale uwezayo katika hali hiyo.” Vivyo hivyo, mke aitwaye Wendy amekata tamaa kuhusu mume wake ambaye ameishi naye kwa miaka saba. “Nilijitahidi mara nyingi,” yeye asema, “lakini sikuzote alinitamausha. Niliishia kushuka-moyo. Sitaki kupatwa na hali hiyo tena. Nikimtumaini tena, nitajiletea tu uchungu. Afadhali nisitumainie chochote—sitakuwa na furaha lakini angalau sitashuka moyo.”

Kutamaushwa, kutopatana, ugomvi na ubaridi ni baadhi tu ya sababu zinazoweza kuchangia ukosefu wa upendo katika ndoa. Bila shaka, kuna sababu nyinginezo—sababu chache zinazungumziwa katika sanduku lililo kwenye ukurasa wa 5. Hata sababu iwe gani, je, kuna tumaini kwa wenzi ambao waonekana kuwa wamenaswa katika ndoa isiyo na upendo?

Why Does Love Not Die? With sixberty manson

Why Does Love Not Die?

"It seems so easy to love a person than to maintain that love." -

NA SIXBERTY MANSON 

THE great prospect of unloving marriage is not surprising. Marriage is a complex human relationship, and many enter the relationship without preparing enough. "We have to have some experience before we get a driving license," says Dakt. Dean S. Edell, "but the marriage certificate just needs to be correct."

As a result, while many marriages are burdensome and overjoyed, some marriages end up in problems. One or both of them may have entered marriage with optimistic expectations but do not have the necessary skills to maintain a marriage. "When people love one another," explains Dakt. Harry Reis, "each one is very sure of his mate." They feel that their partner is "the only person in the world who has the same view of them. At times the feeling is fatal and, when it is, the marriage is severely affected. "

Happily, many marriages do not reach the point. But let us briefly consider some factors that cause love to die in some marriages.

Disappointment- "I Do Not Expect This Situation"

"When I got married to Jim," says Rose, "I expected we would have such a passion for a queen and a fascinating king in a single story-a triumph, a bitterness and a friendly act." But, after a while, Rose's "king" again. "At last he was very angry," he says.

Movies, books, and popular popular songs offer untruths about love. When they are dating, a man and a woman may feel that their bridges have come to an end; but after some years in marriage, they say that it was just a dream! Marital life does not endorse what is described in the novels, many view their marriage as impossible.

Without a doubt, certain marriages in marriage are all right. For example, it is worth looking for the love, consideration and support of a marriage mate. And yet, it may even be that prospect. "I feel as if I were not married," says Meena, the youngest married girl in India. "I feel lonely and nobody cares about me."

Disagreements- "We Are Not Alone to Anything"

"We do not have anything to do with my husband," says one woman. "I regret every day that I married her. We do not really fit it. "

It usually does not take long for a couple to conclude that they are not as good as they thought during dating. "Marital life reveals the hidden behavior of the couple while they were outdoors," writes Dakt. Nina S. Fields.

As a result, after getting married, some couples may conclude that they do not really fit. "In spite of some romantic and romantic relationships, many people enter into marital life with very different characteristics in behavior, behavior, and orientation," says Dakt. Aaron T. Beck. Most couples do not know how to solve those differences.

Violence- "We Are Always Arguing"

"We were amazed at our constant arguing-and the worst thing-to talk about," says Cindy, recalling the early days of their marriage.

Misunderstandings are common in marriage. But how is the situation addressed? "In a good marriage," writes Dakt. Daniel Goleman, "your husband and wife are free to complain. But often because of anger, the complaint is provided in a way that hurts and attacks the behavior of the other partner. "

When that happens, the conversation turns out to be a competition, each one holding firmly to his or her views and thus arguing in words instead of communicating. One group of experts says: "One of the worst consequences of uncontrolled controversy is that partners say things that threaten their own marital security."

Undead- "We Were Failure"

"I have failed to make our marriage succeed," he acknowledged a woman after five years of marriage. "I know it will not succeed. Now I'm just concerned about the kids. "

It has been said that the opposite of love is not hate but it's humor. Of course, greed can completely destroy marriages as well as hostility.

Sadly, though, many marriages have endured such a loveless marriage that they have no hope that the situation will change. For example, one husband said that his 23-year-old marriage was like "doing unpleasant work." He adds: "Do your best to do what you can." Similarly, a wife named Wendy has become discouraged about her husband who has lived with her. seven years. "I worked hard often," she says, "but she always shook me. I was depressed. I do not want to face the situation again. Once again I hope, I will only bring pain. Well, I do not trust anything-I'm not happy but at least I will not give up. "

Disappointment, disagreement, controversy, and despair are just some of the factors that contribute to lack of love in marriage. Of course, there are other reasons-a few reasons are discussed in the box on page 5. Regardless of the reason, though, is there hope for those who seem to be trapped in a loveless marriage?

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LUGHA TANO ZA MAPENZI

     lugha tano za mapenzi

  NA    SIXBERTY MANSON KUTOKA KATIKA KITABU CHANGU CHA THE SIXBERTY MANSON LOVE BIBLE 

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• Unaweza ukawa unafanya mambo mengi mema kwa mpenzi wako lakini anaangalia na kunyamaza akifahamu ndani yake kwamba ni wajibu wako kufanya vile.

MAPENZI NA MAHUSIANO

NA SIXBERTY MANSON 
KUTOKA KATIKA KITABU CHANGU CHA THE SIXBERTY MANSON LOVE BIBLE

Mambo 5 Ya Kufanya Ili Mahusiano Yako Yadumu

Watu wengi tunaingia kwenye mahusiano kwa sababu kuna kitu au vitu vilituvutia kutoka kwa wapenzi wetu lakini hiyo haitoshi inabidi muingie kwenue mahusiano na mtafute njia za kuweza kupendana na kuheshimiana kwa wakati mmoja ili muweze kudumu.

Katika kuhakikisha hilo leo nakuletea mambo 10 muhimu ya kufanya ili mapenzi yako na mpenzi wako yadumu:

1. Mawasiliano kwa ujumla

Kwenye mapenzi maongezi ya mara kwa mara na ya dhati na ni kitu muhimu sana. Ni muhimu kwa wapenzi kukaa chini na kuongea itasaidia kuwaleta pamoja na nyie kufahamiana vizuri na kila mmoja atajua nini kinaendelea kwenye maisha ya mwenzake.

2. Utayari wa kuvumiliana

Ili mapenzi yenu yadumu ni lazima wewe na mpenzi wako mjidhatiti katika kivumiliana hasa mkigombana au mkipitia magumu yoyoye kimaisha huuikimaanisha ili uhusiano wenu udumu ni lazina kila mmoja amvumilie mwenzake sio mmegombana kidogo tu unataka muachane au mmekosa pesa basi unataka ukamtafute mwingine.

3. Kukiri kosa na kuomba radhi

Ili mapenzi yenu yadumu lazima mjue kuna kukosea na ni muhimu pale unapokosea umuombe mpenzi wako msamaha hii itawasidia kiheshimiana zaidi. Wote tunakosea hakuna binadamu mkamilifu hivo ni muhimu kujifunza kutoka kwenye makosa yetu.

4. Kuheshimiana

Hakuna kitu muhimu kwenye mapenzi  kama heshima ni minimum kila mmoja amheshimu mwenzie hii itasaidia kuweka mipaka fulani katika mahusiano na hii itoke pande zote mbili mwanamke amheshimu mwanamke na mwanaume hivyo hivyo.

5. Jengeni Urafiki

ili mapenzi yenu yadumu ni lazima muwe na ukaribu na urafiki ilk muweze kuwa karibu na ili mpenzi wako aweze kukwambia kitu chochote ni lazima mjenge ukaribu ilmuambiane kila kitu lakini hapa pia muwe makini Latina kiwe na mipaka ili msije shindwa kufanya mambo yenu mambo

HALI TETE STORY BY SIXBERTY MANSON

HADITHI YA KUSISIMUA

HADITHI HII IMETUNGWA NA SIXBERTY MANSON ..KUTOKANA NA MVUTO WAKE NIMEIWEKA HAPA KWA NIA YA KUPATA BURUDANI KWA WAPENZI WA HADITHI KAMA MIMI

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Tangu utotoni nilijuwa kuwa nimejaliwa uzuri wa maumbile na sura. Nikiwa mtoto wa kike wa pekee na wa mwisho wa Mzee Erasto Malyamkono (mtaani alijulikana kama Mzee Mswahili) nilikuwa nimedekezwa nikadekeka. Kaka zangu walikuwa wakinichunga utadhani mboni ya jicho vile, na hakuna kitu nilichotamani ambacho sikukipata. Nilijitahidi kuitunza heshima yangu na heshima ya familia hususan maswala ya wanaume. Nilimaliza kidato cha nne kule Bwiru Mwanza na baadaye kujiunga na shule ya Masista wa Damu Takatifu kule Kifungilo Lushoto. Hadi naanza kidato cha tano nilikuwa bado bikira.

Kabla ya hapo vijana wengi kule mtaani maeneo ya Isamilo walikuwa wakinitaka na kunifukuzia. Nawakumbuka kina Maiko, John, Almasi na Mugisha (alikuwa na umbo kubwa na kakichwa kidogo, utadhani hana shingo) wa pale magorofa ya Benki jinsi walivyokuwa wakinisarandia. Nilikuwa mcheshi na sikuwa na maringo yoyote. Yangu yalikuwa ni maneno na ahadi kem kem, lakini kuwavulia chupi la!! Nilikula vi pesa vyao vya sangara n(a kujinoma kwa tuzawadi twao.) Mademu wengi pale mtaani walinichukia sana, na hawakuficha wivu wao. Wengi waliokuwa wakinitaka walikuwa ni watoto wa wakubwa (miongoni mwao walikuwemo mtoto wa Jaji maarufu na mwingine alikuwa ni mtoto wa RPC). Namkumbuka mhindi mmoja ambaye naye alikuwa akinifukuzia ile mbaya. Nilijiona mimi ni malkia wa mbingu nikiitetemesha nchi kila nipitapo.

Ilikuwa ni huko Lushoto ndiko nilikopata kwa mara ya kwanza kuonja joto la mapenzi. Ilikuwa ni likizo ya pili ndipo nilipokutana na Petro J Shekitondo (Alipenda kuitwa PJ). Basi letu lilisimama pale Mombo kwa ajili ya kujipatia chakula kabla ya kuendelea na safari yetu hadi Moshi. Yeye alikuwa ni mfanyakazi katika Hoteli ya Usambara, mojawapo ya hoteli mashuhuri pale Mombo. Nilikuwa nimekaa kwenye meza moja na marafiki zangu wawili; Sakina Mwanakibili (mtoto wa Mbunge) na Grace Chambi (mtoto wa Katibu wa Wizara, ambaye boyfriend wake alikuwa Mbunge mmoja).

Tukiwa tunapeana gumzo, tulikatishwa mazungumzo yetu na kijana mrefu, aliyevalia suruali ya jeans na T-Shirt yenye maandishi ya “Daytona Beach” Kifuani. Alikuwa ni mtanashati na sote watatu tulijikuta tukipoteza mtiririko wa mawazo kwa sekunde.

“Habari zenu” Alitusalimia kwa sauti nzito yenye upole
“Powa” Tulimjibu kwa pamoja huku tukijifanya hatumjali “Mko tayari kuagiza chochote” Alituuliza tena akituangalia kwa kutupokeza.
“Tupe dakika chache” Nilisema kwa niaba ya wenzangu, ambao waliafiki kwani muda wote huo tulikuwa tukipiga gumzo wala hatukuaangalia ile menu ubaoni.
“Clara” Grace aliniita
“Nini” Nilimjibu
“Mbona unamuangalia kaka wa watu utadhani unataka kummeza!” Aliniambia
“Hamna kitu, nilikuwa mbali tu” Nilimjibu, laiti wangejua ni umbali gani nilikuwa!!
“aha!” Walihamaki wote wawili kana kwamba hawakuamini maneno yangu. Aliporudi tena alijitambulisha kwetu kwa jina na kuchukua oda zetu.

Tulikula kwa haraka haraka kwani tulianza kusikia honi ya basi letu ikianza kulia. Kama kawaida tuliangalia alipokaa dereva na demu mmoja wakila, hatukuwa na haraka. Tulipomaliza kula tulijiandaa kuondoka. Kabla hata hatujafika nje tukasikia mtu akituita.
“Samahani kina dada” Alikuwa ni PJ Shekitondo.
“Nini tena” Tulimuuliza tukishangaa labda tumesahau kitu.
“Dada wewe” akinionyesha mimi, “naomba nikuulize kitu” alisema. Tukasogea chemba. Akaja karibu yangu kiasi cha kusikia joto la mwili wake na akasogea kuninong’oneza jambo.
“Tangu uingie hapa hotelini macho yangu yalikuwa kwako, natamani tufahamiane” Aliniambia na sauti kakamavu ilivunja vunja kila vizuio nilivyokuwa navyo. Sikuamini kuwa mwanamme anaweza kunigusa kihisia namna hiyo.
“Mbona basi letu liko karibu kuondoka” Nilimjibu kwa aibu na kudengua kidogo
“Si unasoma Kifungilo” Alinijibu kumbe alishajua mimi ni Mwanafunzi.
“Umejuaje? Kwani tuna alama kwenye paji?” Nilimjibu kwa aibu.
“Nimeshawahi kukuona mlipokuja Mazinde Juu kwa debate” Alinijibu. Dereva wa basi alitoka nje na kuelekea kwenye basi. Nikajua nilazime niamue haraka.
“Sikiliza John” Nilimwambia, “Ninarudi tena shuleni mwezi ujao katikati, labda tuwasiliane wakati huo au vipi?” Nilimwambia.
“Poa tu” Alinijibu.

Alichukua kipande cha karatasi na kuandika namba yake ya simu na kuniambia kuwa siku nikiwa njiani kurudi nimpigie ili tukutane. Nilimwahidi kuwa nitampigia simu wakati nikirudi toka likizo. Nilikimbilia kupanda basi. Rafiki zangu waliniangalia kwa mshangao jinsi uso wangu ulivyong’ara kwa aibu na soni. Wakataka niwasimulie yaliyotokea. Nilisubiri kwa hamu siku ya kurudi toka likizo.

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Jinsi nilivyongojea kwa hamu likizo iishe. Nilikuwa najisomea vitabu, kuangalia TVs (hasa Oprah) na MTV n.k. Hata hivyo mawazo yangu yalikuwa kwa PJ tu. Sijui itakuwaje nikimuona, sijui bado atanionyesha kunitaka... nilifikiri nguo nitakazovaa na kama niweke nywele rasta au kalikiti. Kwa uchafu wangu wa mawazo nimwazia akiwa uchi mbele yangu!!, je nanihi yake kubwa kiasi gani!! Sijui niiguse au la. Mara nyingi nilijikuta nikijichekea mwenyewe. Katika hayo yote ilibidi nikubali mwenyewe kuwa sikuwa na utaalamu katika fani hiyo. Sijawahi kufanya mapenzi na mwanamume yeyote. Nilihisi kutetemeka kwani labda PJ anafikiri mimi nimeshawahi kuwa na mwanamume na hivyo atatarajia nimwonyeshe vitu vya nguvu kitandani. Itakuwaje basi nikiboronga? Nikatamani siku za zamani ambapo mabinti walikuwa wanakwenda unyago na kufunzwa na kufundwa!! Sijui nianzie wapi, nilijiwazia. Niseme wazi kuwa mambo mengi ya mapenzi nilijifunza toka gazeti la “Heko” kwenye darasa lake la Mapenzi na vitabu vingi vya mapenzi. Hata hivyo niligundua kuwa hakuna kitu mbadala zaidi ya kujifunza kwa vitendo. Nikaamua kuwa nitaenda kumwona dada Bupe.

Bupe alikuwa ni miongoni mwa kina dada waliochangamkia biashara ya mapenzi. Nilitambulishwa kwake na wanafunzi wenzangu wakati tukisoma Bwiru. Baadhi ya wanafunzi wa Bwiru walikuwa wanaunganishwa na Bupe na vibosile wa Mwanza na walikuwa wakikutana nyumbani kwa da Bupe pale Pasiansi si mbali sana na ule uwanja wa ndege wa Mwanza. Dada Bupe alikuwa ni kama anawamiliki wasichana hao. Kila mwisho wa wiki tunapopata ruhusa ya kwenda mjini, wengi walikuwa wanaishia kwa Bupe. Nilipopewa nafasi hiyo mimi nilikataa na sikurudi tena. Lakini nikimuwazia PJ nikagundua kuwa hakuna mtu mwingine anayeweza kunisaidia zaidi ya dada Bupe. Nilifunga safari siku ya Alhamisi na kupanda vi- Express yaani daladala za Mwanza hadi Pasiansi. Kwa vile ilikuwa ni wakati wa likizo, sikutarajia kukuta “wageni wengi pale”. Kulikuwapo na gari moja Toyota lenye nembo ya “Jimbo Kuu la Mwanza” limeegeshwa uani. Nilipobisha hodi, si mwingine aliyefungua mlango ila dada Bupe. Sikutaka kujua gari la Jimbo linafanya nini kwa kungwi.

“Karibu, nikusaidie nini?” Alijibu bila kuonyesha kama ananikumbua au la.
“Shikamoo da Bupe” Nilimsalimu nikipiga goti langu kidogo kwa mtindo wa Kisukuma.
“We acha kunizeesha, mambo vipi?” Badala ya kuitikia “marahaba” aliniyeyushia kiaina. Siku hiyo alikuwa amevalia kaptula ya khaki iliyomkaa vyema na alivalia T-shirt ya rangi nyekundu yenye maandishi ya kumetameta yasemayo “Playgirl”.
“Hunikumbuki, da Bupe” nilimuuliza. Tulikuwa bado tumesimama mlangoni.
“Nikumbushe basi usiniambie wewe ni ndugu yangu” Alisema akicheka.

Nilimkumbusha jinsi nilivyokutana naye kwa mara ya kwanza wakati nikisoma Bwiru kama miaka michache tu iliyopita. Akataka kujua kilichonileta hapo kwake, nilimweleza kinaganaga jinsi nilivyojikuta niko njia panda. Nilimuomba msaada wa ushauri wake. Akanikaribisha ndani, kwenye sebule iliyopambwa vizuri kwa makochi ya kifahari na samani za kila aina.

“Yaani unataka nikufundishe kufanya mapenzi” Aliniuliza
“Ndiyo, na zaidi jinsi ya kumridhisha mwanamme” Nilimwambia
“Ok, nitakufundisha itakugharimu lakini” Aliniambia
“Shilingi ngapi?” Nilimuuliza
“Shilingi eflu ishirini tu” Aliniambia bila hata ya kupoteza pumzi. Nilikubali.

Akaniambia kuwa nirudi na hizo fedha kesho yake, na niwe tayari kwa somo la kwanza litakalohusisha mimi kuvunjwa bikira yangu. Nilirudi nyumbani nikijisia afueni lakini mwenye wasiwasi. Sikujua kama uamuzi wangu ulikuwa ni wa busara au la. Hata hivyo nikajisemea moyoni, “maji ukiyavulia nguo, huna budo uyaoge”. Nimeyavulia nguo, niko tayari kuyaoga.

Itaendelea...... 

DAWA YA MAPENZI..........

DAWA YA MAPENZI.......... 

By Sixberty manson  2019

Palitokea Mwanamke, aliyekuwa ametolewa, akashindwa kuishi vizuri na mumewe. Kwa hivyo mumewe hakuridhika naye akaamua atafute mwanamke atayemfaa zaidi, aishi naye. Kwa wivu, yule mke wa kwanza, akatafuta dawa ya kuweza kumrudisha mume wake. Akatafuta dawa aina nne. Aina ya kwanza, ilikuwa ya kujipaka mwilini, aina ya pili, ya kutilia yule mawanaume kwenye chakula, aina ya tatu, ilikuwa ya kuoganayo, aina ya nne, ilikuwa ya kuchoma kwa moto. Hizo dawa aliamini zitamfanya mume wake, amwache mke wa pili, na kwamba mapenzi yao yataongezeka, kwa hivyo wataishi pamoja tena. Baada ya kuzipata dawa hizo na kuzitumia kikamilifu, bado hali ikawa ile ile, hakuna lililobadilika. Mumewe akaendelea kuishi na mkewe wa pili.

Yule mke wa kwanza, akaenda kwa bibi kizeemmoja ambaye alisifiwa kuwa mganga hodari akamwomba amsaidie. Bibi kizee hakusita akamwambia akatafute ubongo wa Fisi, yaani akamuue Fisi ampasue na kuuleta ubongo ukiwa bado mzima! Ubongo huo, ndio utatumika kutengenezea dawa ya mapenzi.

Mwanamke akarudi nyumbani akaanza kufikiria jinsi atakavyomtega Fisi na kumuua. Akapata wazo la kununua nyama na kuikata vipande, kuviweka njiani ambapo fisi hupendelea kupita mara kwa mara. Kesho yake akakuta ule mtego mtupu, na nyama imeliwa. Akanunua nyama kwa wingi akaiweka toka pale alipotega jana yake njiani pote mpaka nyumbani kwake. Fisi walipofika, kwa uroho na ujinga wao kana tunavyowafahamu, wakaanza jula vile vipande vya nyama mpaka ndani ya nyumba ya yule mwanamke. Akamkuta yule mwanamama amejitayarisha vizuri na shoka. Kwa nguvu zake zote. Akampiga kipigo kimoja tu na yule Fisi akafa hapo hapo. Akampasua kicwani akatoa ubongo, na akaenda nao kwa bibi kizee mganga.

Alipofika, bibi kizee akauliza: “Mwanangu, umeniletea ile dawa niliyokutumia?” Mwanamama akajibu. “Ndiyo mama, lakini nimeipata kwa shida sana!” Akamkabidhi bibi kizee ule ubongo wa Fidi. Alipokwisha upokea akakaa kitako akafikiri sana. Halafu akasema: “Mwanangu, sasa nitakueleza kila kitu vizuri sana umetumie akili na ujuzi mwingi, kutega Fisi na kumwua. Sasa nenda ukatumie akili na ujuzi wako wotw ulionao, ili uweze kupata mapenzi ya mumeo, ili uweze kupata mapenzi ya mumeo tena. Nina maanisha kusema, lazima uwe msafi, uvae vizuri na upikie chakula kizuri mume wako. Vile vile, jaribu kujipendezesha kwa mume wako kwa kila hali. Utaona mumeo anarudi nyumbani na kumuacha mke aliyekuwa naye sasa hivi, na mataishi kwa amani na furaha.

Aliporudi nyumbani, akafanya, yote aliyoambiwa na yule bibi kizee. Haukupita muda, mumewe akamfukuza mke wa pili na akarudi nyumbani kwa mke wake wa kwanza. Wakaishi vyema kwa mika mingi sana mpaka vifo vikawatengenisha.

FUNDISHO:- Inaaminika kuwa, watu wanapoishindwa kuishi pamoja katika ndoa, hutumia dawa za kienyeji kwa sababu ya kusitawisha maisha yao.

Wapo akian mama wengi amabao wanaamini kabisa kwamba kuna dawa ya mapenzi.
Lakini ukweli ni kwamba, dawa ya mapenzi ni moja tu nayo ni: Kuhakikisha kwamba, kina mama wanaheshimu ndoa zao na kutii waume zao. Nyumba yenye mapenzi, inamfanya mume apende kukaa nyumbani, na asitembee tembee ovyo.